Good ones, bad ones, happy ones, sad ones, cranky, slow, fast, crazy…
We all have adjectives that describe us. If I had a buck for every time I was called “weird,” I’d be able to buy myself something very shiny. So, we are all different. Some things we have in common, others we don’t. That is life. We meet people we absolutely fall in love with. We meet people we don’t fall in love with at all. We have those inner circle friends, we have those who make us smile when we see them and then we have those on the other end of the spectrum. We weren’t all put here together to enjoy everyone’s company. How could we anyway–there’s too many of us! Anyway, what I’m saying is –we have to accept that we are not going to “like” everyone in our life. Not every one is going to like us. It’s a given–another thing we just need to accept and move on. If you dwell on the fact that you dislike someone or on the fact that they don’t so much like you, you are wasting your very precious time. Our time is truly to be spent loving one another. You can love everyone without liking everything about them. No matter who you meet or where you meet them, you can have love for them.
I promise you can!
If there is someone in your life that you are thinking about right now and shaking your head no at my post here, you are wasting your time holding on to something that is unnecessary to the well-being and happy health of your life. It’s called a grudge. EW! That word, to me, even sounds gross. It’s like “cancer” or “boil.” And really, if you compare those things, they do some of the same things to you. They make you uncomfortable, anxious and a lot of times, sick to your stomach. I don’t want any of that!
Am I saying that I NEVER EVER feel grudging towards others? No. I’m human. DUHHHhhhhh! I have had times in my life where I was so angry with another person, I was physically ill. Do you see how DUMB that sounds? I’ve also had sad times where I was so down because I knew someone didn’t really enjoy me. Why did I waste MY time being sad? It was they who had the problem, not me.
So adjectives shouldn’t get in the way of us being able to love others. Liking them might be hard to do, perhaps, but LOVE should never be a question. When you really, truly figure that out…expect BRIGHTER, HAPPIER and yes, HEALTHIER days. Grudges are heavy and without those, you even feel LIGHTER! Who doesn’t want that!? You will also have more time to do the fun things we all want to do, because you aren’t wasting time with that grudge stuff. I work daily on moving forward and away from the grudges that sometimes want to creep back up. I pray that you have the strength to do that too!