Don’t we love to be in control? We want to be the leader. We want to tell other people what to do. We want to be the head honcho. We think we HAVE to be in the position of authority.
I know there are circumstances where we do have to step up and be THE ONE that others look to. There would be disorganization and disorientation going on if a leader didn’t step up in some instances.
Sometimes, though, people take it to such extreme that they freak out when we don’t have control of a situation, over someone or a certain group. I’ve seen this happen with student council members. There are such strong leaders in the group that they all want to be THE ONE.. The “dominants” soon realize that their sense of control must be shared with the other members who feel the same way. Most of the time, with guidance, this all works out. In those situations, I love to see it evolve and mold into a great leadership unit where the group becomes a community–a family.
My main idea today is how sometimes we want to be in control so badly that once we realize we aren’t, we go a little cray-cray. (to me, that term means more than just crazy) We get upset and worry ourselves about situations that we were never meant to have control of in the first place. We should be willing to allow others to lead us. We should be open for new ideas and new ways of doing things. Don’t be that one that controls the conversation or barks orders at others in your peer group.
I mean, controlling your bladder or the things you put in your mouth OR even the remote are definitely things you should have control over. If you are stressing out over the fact that you can’t control a situation or you can’t control another person–it’s time to do some personal reflection and connection.
The absolute truth is
–GOD is the only one who is truly in control.
He allows leaders to show us the way and guide us in the right direction. He uses people to help us through this life. Perhaps you are the one He is using for someone else. (this is HIGHLY LIKELY) That is great! You have an awesome commission!
…BUT if you are doing that by rudely forcing people to think your way or go your way, or DO IT YOUR WAY– you are abusing the “power” God has given you. I don’t believe CONTROL is a power God gives you, because that is for Him to keep. He allows you to be His messenger, catalyst, liaison, connection between Him and others you come in contact with . We should all take this task much more serious than what we do. We should remember that CONTROL is only for GOD to have and that we are only here to help others..NOT to control them.