In the movies, people fall in love instantly. They treat each other with overly exaggerated sweetness. The man usually opens the door for the woman and is the first to initiate hand holding. In the movies, he asks her thoughtful questions like, “How was your day?” And actually listens to her answer with interest. They talk like best friends might. The camera captures them day dreaming about each other and talking lovingly to others about them.
I’m not saying these things don’t happen in real life. I’m saying it doesn’t tell the whole story and it tends to exaggerate what does happen.
Sure, we fall in love, yet, most all of the time NOT instantly. A man may hold the door open for his woman and allow her to walk before him, but those both seem to be things of old. We hold hands affectionately, of course, but it is not always initiated by the man. (Or the woman). And talking like best friends doesn’t ALWAYS happen. (Sometimes, we to to each other like enemies might.)
The pretty part of love is what the movies show. The flowers and the sweet talk.
But there are so many other pretty things to love besides all of those …
Like grocery shopping for your family even when it’s one of your most UNfavorite things to do.
Picking up a drink for your wife from her FAVE place on your way home even when you weren’t asked to, because you know she will love it.
Emptying the clean dishes out of the dishwasher so no one else will have to.
Cranking your spouses car for them so it will be toasty when they leave for work.
Then you have the even more unsavory things of love…
Not being able to sleep thanks to surprise talking or snoring in the night.
Unwanted smells …mostly from the male side of the couple.
Arguing over stupid stuff that makes absolutely no sense.
Feeling unappreciated, because your feelings or needs were not taken into consideration.
It’s nice to go watch a happy movie. No one would want to watch a TRUE love story filled with all of the unsavories or even the everyday. We want to watch drama that takes us into a make believe world. We like to watch half truth, because REAL love…
It’s not like the movies.
I like this…