It is what it is?
Is what you are talking about really what it is? Is it unchangeable? Can it not improve? Will it not morph into something else?
Can you help it change? Can you assist in some way?
To me, this IT IS WHAT IT IS statement means you have given up. Throw your hands up in the air like ya just don’t care, because with this statement, that is what you mean. It is what it is and you can’t do anything about it.
I think this statement is used way too much. If it is used CORRECTLY, than whatever you are talking about is a constant, unchanging thing. It’s something you can’t budge, you can’t help, you can’t make move no matter what you do. It is unchanging. It’s a “given.”
So, an apple …it is what it is. A cat, dog, a kite, the sky, my right shoe… YEP! Those things can be put in that category. The IT IS WHAT IT IS category!
People… can change. Places… can change. Attitudes, facial expressions, a bad day…
ARE NOT things that you can use that “It is what it is.” statement on.
If you use –it is what it is– on those things, you are saying they can’t change…
they can’t be helped…
you can’t do anything about them.
And I just don’t think that is true. That is my opinion. I suppose it could change, but for now…
IT IS WHAT IT IS.
Sometimes it seems we just cannot do it! We can’t let go of something that is doing nothing but burning a hole in our good day. It’s not helping you or pushing you forward. It is only allowing you to spin your wheels or making you a big ole stick in the mud. No one wants to hear about it…again. You don’t really want to hear about it… again.
I know, I know, you are still in the midst of it. It’s still causing drama in your life. There is this huge elephant sitting in the middle of your brain screaming, “I’m still here!” It’s like one of those catchy songs that gets stuck in repeat and you realize you are humming it again and again. It’s not even the entire song, it’s just the chorus or even just one line AND YOU JUST WANT IT TO GO AWAY. But instead of just going away, it swirls around like dust bunnies do when you are trying to capture them with a broom. Well, it’s time to get the dust buster out! It’s time to clean it up, throw it out and move on.
I’m not gonna allow my mind to dwell on things. I’m gonna MOVE. I’m gonna forgive, forget (as soon as I can!) and seek the One I’m supposed to in all circumstances and situations. I’ve prayed over and over, but I’ve not moved. I’ve not listened. I’ve not allowed myself to look at what I’m supposed to be looking at. Yes, I’ve told myself over and over to LOOK TO THE GOOD, but I haven’t truly done that. Well, as I said…
I’m done with all that stinkin’ thinkin’ and I’m lookin’ to the future…the good..the golden! I’m looking to the SON who did it all for me (and for you) and I’m gonna shine for HIM. I’m gonna spread all the SON SHINE I can around no matter what annoying song gets stuck in my head.
LET’S MAKE A PLEDGE:
Let’s move FORWARD! Let’s not feel bad about the past even if it was yesterday. Let go of last week, the other day, last year or before. Do not dwell on heartaches, bad feelings or grudges we want to hug like a teddy bear. Let’s look toward the upcoming awesomeness that is sure to occur …thanking God in advance for all the blessings which will come! Woo hoo!!! No more need to hold on to the junk of tomorrow… I’m claiming the prize of now and beyond. Go away devil, you canNOT steal my joy!
Can I get an AMEN!?!
***smiling, dancing and giggling with excitement***
I know that at times I may get on others nerves with my positive attitude. Sorry, not sorry. I love being positive! Just thought I’d share this blog with you which talks about the benefits of being positive. It really is a good thing. Being positive can change so much. Looking at things in a positive light makes life better.
Maybe you don’t like blogs (you are reading one now! haha!), but this is a short, easy and good read. Please give it a look and make today AWESOME! When we have positive attitudes, we automatically share those with others…and in my case, it’s especially true for our STUDENTS. They neeeeeeeeeeeeed it.
I promise you. I may be the “dumb” art teacher, but I do know some stuff. (reminds me of Forest Gump: I MAY NOT BE A SMART MAN…)
Hope your Thursday is super duper!
LOVE TO ALL!
GO CHECK THIS OUT PLEASE:
I heard this horrible statement today, “I hate my life.” It was given at a very insignificant moment. A moment where no one was burning alive. There was basically no chaos. The building wasn’t falling in and as far as I know the earth was not trembling.
IMMEDIATELY, The word PERSPECTIVE popped into my head. What a skewed perspective that one statement held.
I wanted to say out loud, “REALLY?” (I didn’t, but I also wanted to say…) Do you really hate your life? Are you in enough mental anguish to HATE this exact moment of your life? Are you in physical pain? Did your mother abandon you, dog die or tooth chip? What about this…Are you dying of cancer? I’m pretty sure the answer to all of those questions IF ANSWERED ABSOLUTELY HONESTLY would have been NO.
Once again, I have a person in my life who will soon die of cancer. I know she will be with Jesus and of that we can absolutely and joyously be certain of, AMEN! To say good-bye to another person I love thanks to cancer makes me shake my head. I know God will take us all the way we are to die, but *sigh* the word cancer makes my stomach lurch. It makes tears come to my eyes and my head hurt. I pray that this diagnosis somehow works for a good in the lives of people who love this wonderful person. Duhhh…God is in control so, I already know that good will happen.
Right now, though…
I can’t stop thinking about PERSPECTIVE …AND can’t get this insane statement out of my head: “I hate my life.”
I heard from a little birdie today that a student said they just didn’t like me. (gasp!) Their reason: she’s just too happy.
((INSERT BIG OLE BELLY-ROLLIN LAUGH, Holding my side, Slapping my knee kind of laugh RIGHT HERE))
This is not a mischievous or “bwahahaha” kind of laugh. This is one from absolute JOY! I’m even MORE happy that someone thinks I’m TOO HAPPY! It actually gives me GREAT JOY!
How about that!? I bet they would have never guessed that. Well, maybe they would since I’m just TOO happy. Haha!
After I got through laughing, I started thinking.
Someone dislikes me for my attitude…really?
I wonder if they like sad people or those who spew hate? I wonder if they just don’t like my enthusiasm, because I know that annoys a lot of people. I’m just curious. It has nothing to do with me worrying at all about whether they like me or not. GOD likes me, I like me most of the time so, I’m good. What concerns me is that what if they don’t like happy, because they themselves can’t see happy. What if they can’t find happy? What if they don’t feel happy, because they don’t have Jesus? What if!?!
And then I thought about this… Do they think I’m happy every second of every day? I get sad, I get down on myself, things happen in my life that aren’t perfect. I have my storms like everyone else, but I choose to ride the waves with a positive attitude. AND I always choose not to ooze my sadness or concern on other people. Of course I have people I talk to about things like that, I don’t just bottle up my sad feelings… but I don’t hurt other people because I’m hurt.
Ok, enough thinking. Let’s get back to the main point…
I’m just TOO happy.
Hold on, this is better:
I love being TOO happy!
Stress sucks the life out of your day. SERIOUSLY! Stress sucks the joy out of your attitude and the smile right off your face! Stress sucks the energy out of whatever situation you are in. Stress makes progress and productivity seem like a volcano of insanity!
Why do we stress? Why do we worry? Why do we get concerned about stuff that will work itself out?
Here’s what I get stressed about—
The list of to-dos that seem to get longer and longer…AND LONGER. I get overwhelmed sometimes and feel the stress in my neck. I get cranky, short tempered and sometimes even cry. …whhhaaat!?!
I REMEMBER stress is what the devil uses to make us crazy. It doesn’t just “suck”…it’s a tool of the devil. Stress is probably one of the first things he grabs for when trying to frazzle us…Gag!
I’m rebuking his power right now!
Here’s my story of the week…
This week is our Homecoming Week at school/work. Months ago, I planned to be part of a ministry weekend with a friend of mine so I will not be here on Friday for our pep rally or game. It makes me sad, but happy at the same time.
Here’s the sad…I won’t —be here for the seniors and their Homecoming game —see the former students who will be coming in for reunions and such —get to share in the excitement of our friendship exchange with the other team and the crowning of the “royalty.”
Here’s the happy…I will —get to be on a trip with one of my good friends who loves JESUS and shows Him all around to everyone anyway she can —get to share Jesus through song! —get to LAUGH and get to recharge my JOY jets! ALSO, my coworkers I gladly call my friends have helped me out and covered all the things I do during this crazy Homecoming Friday. One friend is announcing at the pep rally while another is taking care of contests and another one is filling in at the game that night! I am beyond happy. It is absolutely confirmed that I AM LOVED. What a great feeling!
The devil can take his stupid stress and stuff it! Stress sucks, but MY GOD can put people in my life to show me that HIS blessings shower down when the devil thinks he’s got me chasing my own tail. That ole devil ain’t got nuthin’ on MY GOD! My God is real. My God is alive. My God can and will and does –all the time– GREAT AND WONDERFUL things!
THANK YOU GOD!
Life truly is all about connections.
Who are you connecting with? I’m not talking about DATING. I’m talking about networking, learning from…connecting.
I had a great weekend of connecting with some great student council friends. I was able to meet some new faces and share some great ideas. That truly is what teaching or advising is all about. It’s about learning TOGETHER.
I know I say this a lot. I don’t get tired of saying it though. I LOVE MY JOB. I love my coworkers, the way our leader supports us, how we are able and encouraged to network with others and I love my students. I am truly happy about working all weekend at this conference I just came back from AND I’M truly happy I GET to get up in the morning and go work at the best high school in Texas!
Thank You Lord for connections. Thank You Lord for my student council friends. You know I know YOU put those people in my life. THANK YOU! Thank You Lord for allowing this weekend to be amazing. AMEN!