WARNING: SOAP BOX TIME!
We are who we are because we choose to be. NO MATTER WHAT… You CHOOSE to be the way you are–it is ALL UP TO YOU.
We start our lives like a blank slate. We arrive ready to be influenced, molded and shaped. Then, things happen to us. We are well taken care of, or not. We are surrounded with good friends or bad ones or maybe mediocre ones. We have great parents, grandparents, uncles and aunts or we don’t really. Some of us have circumstances in our lives that are just crazy, chaotic and evil. We have people that abuse us and put us down. We have people who use us or leave us out on purpose. These things happen. I am acknowledging it all. I could make lists upon lists of things that happen to us–good, bad and ugly.
We all have influences, circumstances, people and times. We all have these good, bad and ugly times. A lot of times, though, we look at others’ lives and think they have it great and we don’t, but really, we don’t know their life. We don’t know what happens in their homes and we don’t know what happens in their minds. We don’t know their hearts. We are only responsible for our own hearts. We are not put here to compare ourselves to others. We own our story, not others’.
Back to my point—the person you are, no matter what has happened to you in your life, is ALL UP TO YOU.
Don’t blame others for having a better life. Don’t hurt those around you just because others have hurt you. It’s important that we don’t get beat down by playing the victim in our lives. I know we all have different stories and we have all been “victims” of something, but to stay labeled as a victim only allows whoever or whatever victimized us to continue to win daily.
EXAMPLE: If I were to CHOOSE to be an alcoholic–that would not be because my dad was an alcoholic. I would CHOOSE that lifestyle. I could not blame that on an alcoholic father or even some type of hereditary gene which says I’m more likely to be an alcoholic. Everyone has something they may be more likely to be, BUT WHEN IT COMES RIGHT DOWN TO IT–IT IS YOUR CHOICE.
People use excuses all the time. The media gives people excuses all the time. Sometimes (and I’m not saying all the time, because I know there are certain situations that would be exceptions–but I believe they are very rare) people use excuses because they are too lazy to stand up and blame themselves. They are too unwilling to get up and choose what is right. They are so lacking of inner motivation that they blame it on someone else like their parents or even the government. Geez.
We all (yes, EVERY ONE OF US) need to stop being- idle – indolent – sluggish – slothful – slack – AND step up and take responsibility for: who we are, where we are and what we have become. I believe that once that happens, our lives, our society and our world will be a better place to live.
Once we have done that, we can be in a better position to help those around us. It starts with YOU–yes YOU. (and me, of course) Allow the good, the bad AND the ugly to mold you, influence you and shape you into A RESPONSIBLE, A MORE ACCOUNTABLE AND UPSTANDING YOU. (not a continuous blaming victim who can’t look past anything that has ever happened…come on—move on!!!)
TOMORROW’S POSSIBLE BLOG TOPIC: Influences and circumstances–they CAN be positive NO MATTER what they are…