One of my sweet friends is getting married today. I’m so happy and excited for her!
I think back to my wedding day. It was an exciting yet INSANELY STRESSFUL day! I remember commenting to someone that I didn’t want to do that again…ha! DUH! I wanted that to be my only wedding day. I wanted it to be the day when forever with my man began. Really, I started that thinking about my husband when we were in 8th grade–he had no idea…and NO, I didn’t stalk him—I just knew I wanted to marry him…what 8th grade minds do! Crazy. Haha!
Back to THE day…it went great. At least, I thought it did. I had no idea who got upset with each other or got their feelings hurt because of this or that. It wasn’t about them anyway, it was about me, Bobby and our FOREVER. People say that is supposed to be the best day of your life! I do admit it was pretty spectacular. All the hype that went into the before, during and a bit after was some super happy times.
The let down of life becoming routine and a bit boring after it got me a little. As a young gal, I thought it would be happily ever after (that means FOREVER, right?) like the books say. I am not bashing the books (and movies) that say that, I like those stories! I’m just saying, in reality, it’s not ALWAYS happy. Life slaps ya around a bit. The “happiest day of your life” which was the mountain you were singing on (…the hills are alive…) becomes, at times, valleys of horror. Fights over disagreements that are ridiculous, jealousy and money issues…family disagreements, friends who don’t approve and work that gets in the way. Those low times aren’t really talked about when you are planning that BEST DAY. I mean, your family and older married friends try and tell you, but you don’t listen, because, well, you loooooooooooove him and nothing will get in the way of that! HA!
Things try…they do…they weasel their way in and try and wedge a space between you and your spouse. So many times, it works. People sever their marriage ties and move on. I know everyone has their story, their circumstances and their reasons on why it didn’t work. I’m not condemning anyone. I just know that sometimes those silly disagreements, money issues and other crazy things get blown up so big that the love we have for each other is just shivering in the shadow of it all. ALL COUPLES have those times. I’ve wanted to pack my bags and enter witness protection before for something I thought was beyond repair! Not bashing my husband at all here—they were MY MISTAKES, not his. Either way the fault points, both people have to pull each other up and commit to what they started. Re-committing may have to be done over and over, but it’s so important. We have to make love the main part of our relationship. Love has to truly conquer all!
Going back to that BEST DAY thing…The best day of my life is when I realized that the LOVE CONQUERING ALL thing could only come when you put GOD first in your marriage. I didn’t get that. Sure, we were married in a church, the vows were said and the Bible verses read about doing this in the name of God and in front of God and how no man can separate what God has joined. I heard all of that, but I didn’t listen. I didn’t tuck those words in my heart and truly believe them.
Our wedding day was, as I said, a pretty spectacular day, but truly, the best day of my life was when GOD opened my eyes and I could see all the good things that HE gives us and LOVE is the best of all and it really, truly, totally absolutely, without a doubt can CONQUER ALL! (now, THAT is what I’m singing on that mountaintop!)