Why is it that everywhere I look kids are throwing a fit?
I’m not talking about your normal crying baby. I’m talking about screaming, crying and convulsing on the floor in the middle of a store. I’m talking complete and total meltdown.
Also, what is going on with young people shooting people? Youngsters who have only been on this earth for a handful of years do unspeakable crazy things. Did their parents or some authority figure not tell them that ain’t right?!?
Let me back up a little and start this little rant with a disclaimer:
I DO NOT IN ANY WAY CLAIM TO BE THE BEST PARENT OR DISCIPLINARIAN BY ANY MEANS.
FITS! Even adults throw hissys that would put a 2 year old child to shame.
Here are my questions:
Has discipline become something of old? Is it out of style? Is it something we as a society don’t do anymore?
My children are not perfect and they do act up and act out at times, but they know when they do…there are consequences and repercussions that will follow. They know there is some type of unpleasant feeling in their near future. I’m not talking a “beating”…I’m talking some type of DISCIPLINE in order to help them understand that their behavior is inacceptable.
When I was young, I learned very quickly what I could and could not do. I learned to respect my parents, their friends, my teacher and others in authority. Why is this something that doesn’t happen these days? As I grew up, I acted right and respectable, because I was taught that.
Not too long ago, my cousin created a post on her FB page which goes right along with what I’m talking about. Please read Zanetta’s comment below. She is, as they say, ON POINT.
I live in the land of the privileged – privileged with the opportunity to respect. Ever notice how everyone wants respect, yet so many people don’t know how to get it? We can respect others regardless of background, ethnicity, color, sexual orientation, social status, or whether or not they agree on a given topic. Trust me, I’ve been guilty of not treating others with respect, and I can’t remember a time when that paid off. The way you treat others (good or bad) provides consequences (good or bad respectively). Ever notice how simple it is to give respect? Just imagine you are the other person, and treat yourself the way you’d like to be treated. It really is that simple. I didn’t say easy; I said simple. It’s possible it is easier for some than it is for others. For me, my Mom and Dad taught me to respect others, especially my elders and authority, so I’m possibly more used to doing it than someone else. Something else you can trust – if I didn’t respect others, it wasn’t the teacher, principal or police I was afraid of. I was afraid my Mom and Dad would beat my back side black and blue. I don’t know how many times I heard my Dad say things like, “Do you want me to knock the teeth right out of your head?” if there was any hint of “tone” or back talk out of my mouth. No, my parents weren’t abusive. They were being good parents teaching me to respect them and others. I’m pretty positive my siblings can tell you I’m not exaggerating any of that. You know what I learned from all that? I learned that when you respect others, you rarely find yourself getting in trouble, breaking the law, etc. I say rarely, because it’s conceivable that I may not disrespect a soul, yet break a traffic law. I may even find myself facing a law enforcement officer due to it. He might even ask me to do something I think is ridiculous. Here enters that respect authority part. I know it might be a pain in the tail, I probably don’t have time for it, I probably disagree, and it’s probably immensely frustrating to have to comply with whatever this authority figure is telling me to comply with, but here’s the trick to having privilege in that situation – just do it! I know (from experience with other authority figures like my Mom and Dad) that fighting it, mouthing off, etc. is going to do nothing but waste my time, and get me nowhere other than probably more trouble. Yep, sometimes you’ll find that authority figures do stupid and possibly wrong things. Respect them anyway. God put them there, so think about that. I also understand from these ancient teachings that it is MY responsibility to provide the respect, not the other person’s. It is the same thing I teach my kids today. Mouth off, and you get punished. Mouth off about that, I’ll dish out more punishment. Keep on fighting with me, you won’t like the mama bear that comes out. Daddy bear backs me up too and might just add more, so you might want to try a new attitude. It is called respect. Here’s another funny thing I’ve learned about respect – when you give it, it is most likely you’ll get it back. I live in the land of the privileged – privileged with the opportunity to respect. I’m ok with that.
No more fits.