Everyone has them…in your mind, you have this constant conversation going. Most of the time, it’s all questions. Should I? Can I? Am I? Do I? Where? What? How? You attempt to answer them, but sometimes the questions are answered with even more questions.
I know a lot of these are part of decision making and we MUST do it. I mean, SHOULD I BREATHE? Duhhhhh, yes. Should I brush my teeth? Duhhhhhhhh, yes. Some questions are a given. Then there are those OTHER QUESTIONS…
AM I PRETTY? AM I SMART? AM I WORTHY? Do I look better than ….? Am I the best at …..? Does ……like me?
UHHHHHHHHG! Just typing those questions makes me want to scream, for real! YES YOU ARE PRETTY! YES YOU ARE SMART! YES YOU ARE WORTHY! …you don’t have to look better than someone else–YOU LOOK LIKE YOU!…You are the best at SOMETHING, find it! People DO like you! Some don’t too, but YOU SHOULD NOT CARE ABOUT THOSE! Yes, I know, I keep screaming.
If you have ever dealt with an insecure person, you can see all these questions written on their forehead. They almost pop up like speech bubbles above their head. I want to pop the bubble and use an eraser on that chalkboard in their brain. I want to do something that will make them believe in themselves. I want to hit them! Ok, I really do not want to cause them physical harm, but I do want them to snap out of it somehow.
I am not saying I never ever have those questions in my crazy head. I just push through all that clutter, because I know who I am. I know what I was made for and I know without a doubt that OTHERS cannot define who I am with their opinions, looks, stares or even verbal rants (to my face or behind my back). Oh, I get my feelings hurt at times, of course. People are people. Humans can’t help to wear their emotions on their sleeves at times. Some do it more than others. Some people have MIND CONVOS which are a long stream of insecure thoughts and negative thrashings. It makes me sad for them, but at the same time MAD AT THEM for not loving themselves!
COME ON PEOPLE!!!
I know, I’m still yelling, but I get so crazy on this subject. I’m sure I’ve blogged about it before many times.
I won’t capitalize anymore. I’m just going to type my requests calmly:
Quiet that convo–the negative one– in your mind which makes you feel less of what you are suppose to be. Please.
Look in the mirror and love what you see. Please.
Don’t compare yourself. (It’s hard not to put that in caps.) Please.
Choose to be happy and confident, because you are pretty (or handsome), you are smart and you are worthy. You are talented and you are liked. Stop trying to please everyone and be happy with who you are. Please.
Ending today with this cartoon. INSTANT SELF ESTEEM:
Remember, this is funny… I really don’t think everything revolves around me.
I know who my life is truly about. I’m just number 3: 1.God 2. Others 3. Me